This was an excellent application of a framework I also really like. Thank you! I often wonder, though, how to make the tactics and frameworks clearer to people that are “buying” the message. Yes it’s a great way to sell something, but if the goal is to see the world more clearly, how do we go about doing that? Is it only by removing fear?
Thanks for writing this Elise. I’m a coach and coaching supervisor, and find the drama triangle incredibly useful to help my clients recognise their relationship dynamics. Equally valuable is a positively oriented version, The Winner’s Triangle, which I believe was first developed by Acey Choy (DOI: 10.1177/036215379002000105).
I’d love to hear your thoughts on how we can apply the roles of Assertive, Caring and Vulnerable Choy identities… although I personally prefer the language of Proactive, Vulnerable and Resourceful to match the initials of the drama triangle.
Thank you for your writing and podcast, I read and listen with great interest and appreciation for your perspectives.
Thank you for re-contextualizing this idea in such a needed way! It's tough to find a way to speak with nuance within systems and platforms that want us to be all one thing or the other. Finding other folks threading that needle is such a gift.
Thank you for succinctly applying this framework to what we are experiencing in our modern experience of profit-driven consumerism, political divisiveness, and an ever growing pervasive hopelessness. Why would be feel hopeful when there is an overflowing narrative of new villains? The political situation in America takes this to comically obvious (and terrifying) new heights. It’s helpful to recognize the simple pattern and also opt out of it.
I just wrote a piece that was published in this week's local Business Journal about the drama triangle at work. Partly, because I can't get the framework out of my head as I reluctanlty sip the morning news. And also because there's no real seperation between life and work. It's all just life. And a scared executive (driven by fear from any number of things) needs their "projection screen," too. That screen, unfortunatly, tends to be the humans that surround him/her. So much of effective leader development is the self-awareness to recognize our frustration/anger (fear, shame, grief) as something we have been complicit in creating, but say we don't want. This is the jump from the victim to the creator. And it's calling on us all, now. Love this synchornicity, Elise.
Excellent explanation of the human need for simplicity and its implications. With everything going on in our world, this is such a relevant topic.
It does sound like addressing the fears at their core is the antidote. Elise, I'm curious about your thoughts are on The Empowerment Dynamic (TED) as a framework to help manage the fears. We the world can use all the help we can get :) Great newsletter!!
This was an excellent application of a framework I also really like. Thank you! I often wonder, though, how to make the tactics and frameworks clearer to people that are “buying” the message. Yes it’s a great way to sell something, but if the goal is to see the world more clearly, how do we go about doing that? Is it only by removing fear?
Thanks for writing this Elise. I’m a coach and coaching supervisor, and find the drama triangle incredibly useful to help my clients recognise their relationship dynamics. Equally valuable is a positively oriented version, The Winner’s Triangle, which I believe was first developed by Acey Choy (DOI: 10.1177/036215379002000105).
I’d love to hear your thoughts on how we can apply the roles of Assertive, Caring and Vulnerable Choy identities… although I personally prefer the language of Proactive, Vulnerable and Resourceful to match the initials of the drama triangle.
Thank you for your writing and podcast, I read and listen with great interest and appreciation for your perspectives.
Thank you for re-contextualizing this idea in such a needed way! It's tough to find a way to speak with nuance within systems and platforms that want us to be all one thing or the other. Finding other folks threading that needle is such a gift.
Thank you for succinctly applying this framework to what we are experiencing in our modern experience of profit-driven consumerism, political divisiveness, and an ever growing pervasive hopelessness. Why would be feel hopeful when there is an overflowing narrative of new villains? The political situation in America takes this to comically obvious (and terrifying) new heights. It’s helpful to recognize the simple pattern and also opt out of it.
I just wrote a piece that was published in this week's local Business Journal about the drama triangle at work. Partly, because I can't get the framework out of my head as I reluctanlty sip the morning news. And also because there's no real seperation between life and work. It's all just life. And a scared executive (driven by fear from any number of things) needs their "projection screen," too. That screen, unfortunatly, tends to be the humans that surround him/her. So much of effective leader development is the self-awareness to recognize our frustration/anger (fear, shame, grief) as something we have been complicit in creating, but say we don't want. This is the jump from the victim to the creator. And it's calling on us all, now. Love this synchornicity, Elise.
Great piece on how the drama triangle applies to politics and brand consumerism 👏 thanks Elise!
Excellent explanation of the human need for simplicity and its implications. With everything going on in our world, this is such a relevant topic.
It does sound like addressing the fears at their core is the antidote. Elise, I'm curious about your thoughts are on The Empowerment Dynamic (TED) as a framework to help manage the fears. We the world can use all the help we can get :) Great newsletter!!